It goes without saying that the early days with a newborn can be big on love but short on sleep. There’s a lot that can get in the way of your little one sleeping through the night. It takes time for Baby to learn to distinguish day from night, to be ready to put themself back to sleep on their own, and to go several hours without needing to feed.
With all of this in mind, it’s no surprise that Baby may keep you from getting a full night’s sleep for quite some time. But what if it’s not actually Baby that’s keeping you up? What if your little bundle of joy is being oh-so-sweet and actually sleeping at night… but you just can’t? You might be experiencing insomnia.
What is insomnia?
Insomnia is a sleep disorder that can manifest in a few different ways. It might make it difficult to fall asleep, make it difficult to stay asleep, or cause you to wake up early and then struggle to fall back asleep. You might also feel tired or drained of energy when you wake up in a way that makes it hard to get through the day.
What can help?
Many adults experience insomnia at some point. Assuming Baby isn’t the big culprit keeping you from getting shut-eye (and let’s be honest, they may very well be a part of the equation) there are a few things that may be able to help improve your sleep(less) situation.
Wind down
In the same way that little ones benefit from having an established bedtime routine, having a routine of your own that helps tell your mind and body, “Hey, it’s time for sleep!” can be a great way to ease into slumber. Whether it’s sipping a warm cup of tea while reading a book, taking a hot bath or shower, or playing a favorite song while brushing your teeth and washing your face, these little rituals can help guide you toward dreamland.
Release tasks and calm your mind
Many times we’re so tired at the end of the day, but little stressors pop up just as we begin to drift off. “Don’t forget the dog has a vet appointment!” “Remember to use those berries before they go bad!” Journaling or making notes as you brush your teeth or get in your PJs can unload your mind in no time.
Keep wake and sleep times regular
Again, little ones can sometimes get in the way of this, but if you can make a habit of waking up and going to bed at the same time every day — and this includes keeping these times regular on the weekend and avoiding naps that might throw off your bedtime — your body may be able to get back into a healthier sleep rhythm.
Keep it cool
Ideal sleep temperatures are between 68 and 72 degrees, but you may find a cooler environment even more sleep inducing. If your partner is radiating heat, consider two separate blankets or comforters. Just be sure your little one is cozy enough if you drop the thermostat and they’re in your room.
Shut off screens an hour before bed
Okay, so who isn’t guilty of staring at a screen before bed? (You’re reading this on a screen right now!) But it’s no secret that screen time before bedtime is a big no-no. The type of blue wavelength light that screens emit and the way these devices keep you mentally engaged can keep your brain going when it should be slowing. Even if it’s a hard habit to break, switching your phone into a setting that shuts off blue wavelength light in the evening and shutting it off before climbing into bed as part of your bedtime routine — and maybe even keeping it out of the bedroom entirely, if you can go there — are both smart choices that promote better and more restorative sleep.
Darkness
Our bodies crave darkness to sleep soundly. Blackout shades and curtains can be a great way to improve your quality of sleep.
Limit caffeine, alcohol, and big meals before bed
All of these things can keep you awake when you should be snoozing.
White noise
A white noise machine or even just a fan can help blanket smaller noises and keep you asleep even when you’re on high alert. Don’t worry! Your baby’s cries will still come through.
Weighted blankets
Although these aren’t recommended if you’re sharing a sleep surface with your baby, they can be a way for sleep deprived adults to improve their sleep.
Establish bedroom boundaries
Use your bedroom only for sleep and intimacy — and, of course, taking care of your little one, as needed. If you establish that you won’t, for example, work on your laptop or watch TV in bed, it will help your body know that when you hit the sheets, it’s time for either sleep or sex, but not to toss or turn or check your Twitter feed.
It goes without saying that it might be hard to do all these things all the time — and some ideas might sound downright luxurious or impossible right now, because life with a little one is often full of the unexpected — but to try and incorporate even one or two of these suggestions might make a difference.
What if it’s something else?
Though it’s not always the case, sleep troubles — both sleeping too little and sleeping too much — can also be a sign of postpartum depression (PPD). Trouble sleeping could also be caused by other medical conditions or medications. Ruling out medical reasons for insomnia, including PPD, can be an important part of figuring out how to beat it.
Postpartum depression is a type of depression that often develops within the first few weeks of giving birth but can also develop anytime within the first year or so after having a baby. Symptoms of postpartum depression are broad reaching, and go beyond trouble sleeping. Symptoms can also include:
- Sadness
- Excessive crying
- A depressed mood or severe mood swings
- Anxiety
- Irritability and anger
- Appetite changes, like loss of appetite or eating more than usual
- Fatigue
- An inability to think clearly, concentrate, or make decisions
- Social withdrawal
- Less interest and pleasure in things you used to enjoy
- Feelings of worthlessness, shame, guilt, or inadequacy
- Trouble bonding with your baby
- Thoughts of harming yourself or your baby
- Recurrent thoughts of death or suicide.
Postpartum depression is more common in those with a history of depression or mental illness and in those experiencing major stresses, like pregnancy complications, difficulty breastfeeding, or a sick child. It’s estimated that perhaps 10 to 15% of new moms develop PPD, and the number could be even higher, so if any of these symptoms sound familiar, you should know you’re not alone.
How to get help
Because the postpartum period is tough to begin with, it might not surprise you that you’re having trouble sleeping — but that doesn’t mean you need to suffer through it. You can certainly try some of the above suggestions, but you should also talk to your healthcare provider so they can help you find some relief. Speak to them if you think you’re suffering from postpartum depression so that they can help you find a treatment plan that’s best for you. Even if you’re simply wondering what’s normal — Are you experiencing insomnia or just a new parent? Could your insomnia be related to PPD? — do reach out to them. When you have a new little one, getting shuteye is no small thing, and you deserve to sleep well and feel good.
Reviewed by the Ovia Health Clinical Team
Read more
- Self-care as a parent: finding time to recharge
- Better sleep and happier children: the side effects of taking care of your mental health
Sources
- Dept. of Health and Human Services Office on Women’s Health. “Postpartum Depression.” MedlinePlus. U.S. National Library of Medicine. Retrieved July 25 2017. https://medlineplus.gov/postpartumdepression.html.
- Jean Y. Ko, et al. Trends in Postpartum Depressive Symptoms – 27 States, 2004, 2008, and 2012.” Morbidity and Mortality Weekly Report. 66(6):153–158. February 17 2017. Retrieved June 11 2018. https://www.cdc.gov/mmwr/volumes/66/wr/mm6606a1.htm.
- Mayo Clinic Staff. “Insomnia.” Mayo Clinic. Mayo Foundation for Medical Education and Research, October 15 2016. Retrieved June 11 2018. https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/insomnia/symptoms-causes/syc-20355167.
- “Depression among women.” Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. U.S. Department of Health and Human Services, December 13 2017. Retrieved June 11 2018. https://www.cdc.gov/reproductivehealth/depression/index.htm.
- Mayo Clinic Staff. “Postpartum depression.” Mayo Clinic. Mayo Foundation for Medical Education and Research, August 11 2015. Retrieved June 11 2018. http://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/postpartum-depression/basics/causes/con-20029130.
- “Blue light has a dark side.” Harvard Health Publishing. Harvard University, December 30 2017. Retrieved June 11 2018. https://www.health.harvard.edu/staying-healthy/blue-light-has-a-dark-side.
- “Postpartum depression facts.” National Institute of Mental Health. U.S. Department of Health and Human Services. Retrieved June 11 2018. https://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/publications/postpartum-depression-facts/index.shtml.
